By The Way I’m Bi!
I have never kept it a secret that I am bisexual. It was a little difficult revealing my sexual orientation to Alex when we first met, not in terms of how he reacted…he was fine. But the actual act of “coming out” as it were.
You can never be sure how someone will react when they are told and I know that most men would probable be happy if their partner revealed they were bi. Even, so you just can’t be sure of the way someone will react.
We are lucky because we have an understanding and an honesty which transcends any sexual nuance. Both of us like to explore different facets of our sexuality both independently and as a couple.
If I were to be approached by another girl on a sexual level, I know that Alex would be 100% behind me. He wants me to enjoy myself and be true to my inner most feelings. It’s a fact that I find women as attractive as men and he likes that aspect of me, in fact it could be said that he encourages me.
I was prompted to evaluate what it means to be bisexual last night when I watched an adult television program. It raised the point that women who are bi “want to have their cake and eat it”. Pointing out that there is a common feeling amongst lesbian women that they are not totally approving of bisexual women.
It’s something I have never given thought to before. Is it possibly a feeling born out of the fact that we may be playing at it, not quite wanting to be purest and therefore totally mistrusted? Or is it because we are never totally attainable, because we need cock every now and then too?
I’ll be the first to admit that I could not become a lesbian, I love men too much to do that. However, I would still be devoted to a girl in the same way I would a guy. I don’t play at anything which involves someone’s feelings and the possibility of my partner being hurt.
My bisexuality is a part of me, just like being a lesbian is not a lifestyle choice but a natural urge, an instinct if you like. I can’t just turn it off and on when I feel like it. If you turn my head when I’m on the street it is a gut reaction, a reflex I have for a girls I find attractive.
So, ladies…is there anyone out there reading this post who can give me a true lesbian opinion on this because like most I don’t always believe what I hear in the media. I would love to hear someone else’s take on this to give balance to the whole issue and educate any other bisexual female who may stop by and read this post.
Tags: homosexuality, bisexuality, gay, lesbian, coming out
Hi Suze,
I love the way you and Alex write on your blog, excellent and very real.
I like your honesty with your bi-sexuality. The Cam Lover has never had penetrative sex with a male, but he did have a gay experience when he was 12 years of age. I wrote about it on my blog under the homosexuality category. The entry title is “My first gay (homosexual) sex experience at 12 years of age”.
Do you think it is strange that a male wants to have sex with male sex doll and not a real man?
I am into sex dolls and I am thinking of buying a new John Holmes doll. He is supposed to rock.
The Cam Lover
Okay Suze, maybe I don’t qualify, but hey, I’ll give you my 2 cents anyway. It doesn’t matter (in my opinion) if you want to be with a guy – OR be with a guy. To me, monogamy is the issue…
So, if a woman has a partner, well, stay with THAT partner until the relationship is through.If the next time, you want apartner of a different gender, fine.
Again, it’s about the relationship, not the penis or vagina thing…
But that’s just me, and I’ve never been with a woman, although I’ve thought about it.
Don’t worry about what others say, if you like it and alex doesn’t have a problem with it and the consenting other doesn’t then grab some nookie!
I agree with Alex and Loving Annie, I have heard that the majority of straightly homosexual ( is that a phrase?) disapprove of bisexuality. I personally, think some are straight, some a homosexual and some just know how to get the most of any situation. I did recently read an article that said self reporting bisexual men described arousal to both sexes, scientific evidence suggests they get aroused by men only based on engorgement, heart rate and perspiration measurements. Which lead me to wonder how much of sexuality is hardwired at birth and how much is learned.
I also have read that second or third born boys in a family are more likely to be gay or bisexual. I have seen no such research on women. Though I know of a young gentleman that complains he cant find a respectable straight woman to love. He says all the women his age or younger (under 30) are either flat out bi or bi tendencies.
Cam Lover, I’m glad you like the truthful and honest approach to writing we have here. I like to make the reader feel as if they are with us in the bedroom.
I dont’ think you wanting to do that is strange at all, after all Alex did a review of the cock and anus recently and I found a huge turn on to watch him fuck the ass. 😉
Annie, being with another woman is special and very sensual and arousing. I’m still waiting for the right girl to come along and give me the eye, it’s very difficult to spot another bisexual girl.
Jack, I’m so glad that Alex accepted my bisexuality so easily. It’s part of me and I couldn’t change it if I tried.
Mrs Zig, I can only speak for myself, I have always been attracted to other women. Perhaps I should do a study…now there is an idea. 😉